Unknowingly expecting things that are toxic or suffocating can harm the relationship and lead to feelings of resentment and dissatisfaction.

Assessing our expectations in relationships is crucial to building a healthy and fulfilling partnership. Often, we may have expectations that we are not even aware of. These expectations may be based on past experiences, cultural norms, or even unrealistic media portrayals of relationships.
We should examine these expectations and ensure that they are realistic and fair to both partners. Unknowingly expecting things that are toxic or suffocating can harm the relationship and lead to feelings of resentment and dissatisfaction. For example, expecting your partner to always prioritize your needs over their own or expecting them to be available to you 24/7 can be overwhelming and suffocating.
As we grow and change as individuals, our expectations may also change. Therefore, it’s important to regularly re-evaluate our expectations and communicate any changes with our partner. It’s crucial to understand that every person has different expectations in a relationship, and it’s necessary to be willing to compromise for the relationship to work.

We should listen to our partner’s needs and wants and adjust our expectations to make the relationship healthy and happy for both. Some expectations can be damaging to the relationship, such as wanting our partner to change who they are or fulfill all our emotional needs. It’s important to examine our expectations and make sure they are reasonable and fair to our partner.
Unhealthy assumptions in relationships are beliefs we hold about our partner, ourselves, or the relationship that can be harmful or wrong. Sometimes, we may think that we know what our partner is thinking or feeling without actually talking to them, which is called “mind reading”. This type of assumption can lead to misunderstandings and can prevent us from having effective communication.
Another unhealthy assumption is when we think in “all-or-nothing” terms, which means we expect our partner to always act or behave in a certain way, without taking into consideration that everyone makes mistakes and has bad days. It’s important to remember that our partner is not perfect, just like us, and we should not hold them to unrealistic standards.
Another unhealthy assumption is when we believe that our partner should fulfill all our emotional needs. This puts a lot of pressure on them and can lead to disappointment and frustration. Instead, it’s important to remember that both partners should work together to support and care for each other, but also that we have to take responsibility for our own emotional well-being.